Do you ever think about how you are perceived by others? Does it concern you? Do you get a negative vibe often from different people? Many of us don’t look at how we appear to others, I am not trying to tell you to change and be like everyone else. If we look at how most people view a ‘cocky’ or ‘arrogant’ individual; the negative words people say about these individuals. Have you ever wondered if maybe they don’t see themselves that way?
It could be you!!
If by now you have been following my blog and you have set up your journal; reviewing your days and how situations played out. Do you see any patterns; anything that is a common occurrence? Do others step away at work when they see you coming?
It is unfortunate that you almost have to know this in yourself, in your personal reflections and journal to see whether the way you come across is arrogant, cocky and leaves people seeing you as a ‘know-it-all’.
Nobody is willing to help
You will find cocky and arrogant people are often left to work things out on their own; people don’t get enjoyment from working with them. They are not humble and don’t often see that others can contribute information because each of us is on a different path looking differently at the same issue. How we see the world is made up of our past and the things we have learnt and seen. The scars that we obtain in life give us can change the colours in our world.
Just because I see blue does that mean I am right and you are wrong? If a room of 10 people see purple, green, amber; it all comes down to our perspective. If you are not willing to try and understand how someone sees purple and you believe you are right it is blue, you are letting your cocky and arrogance over rule; why will anybody ever try to work with you?
Life is not right and wrong
Many people live life thinking everything has to be black and white (for more read my Black & White article); the world is different to each of us. You will never have the full view of the world, because there are so many situations you cannot live; you cannot go back and change your childhood to alter how you see a situation now.
My Importance of Communication article talks about the importance of communicating, and when we refine that we will often bleed out the cocky or arrogant attitude and we allow ourselves to open our thinking to the fact that maybe it could be purple and we can become more collaborative with our team mates.
What if it is me
If you feel you could be perceived as cocky or arrogant it is always able to be changed. If you work out the person you want to be and get a mentor to help keep you on track. We are only ever ‘doomed’ if we believe we are perfect; this is because nothing on earth is perfect it is whether we choose to see the flaws, or wear the ‘rose coloured glasses’.
I want more….
I talk more about mentoring in my mentoring series, Mentoring – Know what you can offer, Mentoring in the workplace, I have more on this series to come. My articles Consistency is key, Importance of Communication, can also help.
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